Being a kid can be very hard, and parents forget this easily. Most parents have been through hard times when they were kids, but like any other bad thing, this is also easily forgotten. It is very important that you don’t fail being a parent. This means being there for your kids when they need you the most. If a kid is bullied in school for a long time, it can lead to severe consequences concerning that child’s development. Some people have been scarred for life because they felt neglected and left out through the course of their childhood. Approximately one in five children will face some form of bullying in school. To summarize, there are three main types of bullying:
- Verbal bullying: involves negative words directed towards someone including curses, insults, name calling in order to intentionally hurt a person
- Physical: includes physical attacks on a child such as tripping, hitting, poking, etc
- Social: involves spreading negative rumors and undermining someone in order to exclude him or her from the rest of the group
Your child is strangely quiet
This is the most obvious sign that your child might be a victim of bullying. Hardly any kid will come to their parents and tell them about its problems at school. This can be because they are scared of the bullies paying them back for telling or just because they feel embarrassed to talk to their parents. And when you ask them what’s wrong they say “nothing” – trust me, it’s never nothing. For a child to be quiet and antisocial, something must be troubling him or her. Don’t make any moves until you are sure that something is wrong. See how your kid is behaving before going to school. See if your kid is reluctant to go to school (and not in a regular way) and is there some information circling around school. If you notice these things, you should talk with your kid, and if he (or she) doesn’t want to talk about school, then you can be 90 % sure that something is going on. If this is the case, visit the teachers at school and ask them to keep an eye on things (do these actions without your kids’ knowledge).
If you notice some strange physical injuries like bruises, scratches or cuts, this may be a wake up call. This is a typical sign of physical abuse. Most bullies enjoy abusing other kids this way. While it’s the most noticeable type of abuse, it can also be the most harmful one. A child who suffers physical bullying can suffer terrible consequences. If you notice a pattern of frequent injuries, headaches, visits to the school nurse, then it is very likely that your child is bullied physically.
When a child is unable to sleep, it means that there is a lot on their mind, and that they cannot let go of some things. Waking up at night, wetting the bed, crying to sleep and frequent nightmares can all be warning signs for abuse.
A bullied kid thinks about his or her abuser very often and especially at night when being alone. An abused kid knows that when it wakes up, (ironically) the same nightmare will be waiting over and over again, and that’s why most bullied kids have trouble sleeping normally.
A Change in Eating Habits
If you make breakfast for your kid before school and give money for a snack during school time, but your kid is always hungry when coming back from school, this may be a problem. Bullies like to show dominance by taking their victims’ food or money. This is one of the most common forms of bullying so be on the lookout.
If you notice that you kid is constantly missing his toys, personal items, books or electronic items, it is more possible that someone is taking their stuff. This is yet another way how bullies like to show their dominance.
These things can also point out to some other issues. When you notice some of these patterns, investigate even further without the knowledge of your kid and ask indirect questions, to get a better picture through your child’s reactions.
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